The name of this post is an exact quote from a friend’s co-worker. “I hate change – unless it makes my life easier.” I chuckled when I first heard this, but then I realized that millions of people feel that way. Certainly change for the sake of ease and comfort, as this individual enjoys, is a good thing and I’m all for it if means progress. But do we always know upfront whether or not a change in our lives will result in disaster or pleasure? Certainly not, so why judge it?

Change comes neatly packaged in all sorts of life experiences ranging from tragic events to finding new love. The joyous experience of having a child creates change in ones life, but it certainly doesn’t make life any easier! In the end, change often brings joy into our life, even if we forsake the comfort and ease of routine and simplicity. So why do so many resist it?

Change is such a hot topic that there are books written about, seminars given to address it, highly compensated consultants brought in to address corporate executives and their teams. Urrggh! Change! It’s costing America millions! But beyond the millions of dollars are the millions of headaches and fears that are costing us even more. What would happen if we weren’t so resistant to the dreaded – C-H-A-N-G-E?

It seems that we too often view change as a bad thing right off the bat. It forces us out of our comfort zone and into the unknown. It means that we’ll have to adjust, think harder, and possibly learn something about ourselves that may not be pleasant to face. With that perspective, of course we’re going to resist it! Change is stirring the pot; mixing flavors of the past, future, and present to create either a delectable feast or a culinary disaster. We don’t always know what’s about to occur – and the unknown is a scary place!

But, finding light in even the most tragic events will help make an unwanted change bearable. In the example of my husband’s death a number of years ago, I took the time to be alone and get to know what I really wanted in my life, now that my goals had to be different. As a result I got out of a rut and changed career paths. I spent more one-on-one time with my then 8-year-old twin daughters and became both parents to them. We are closer today than I believe we ever would have otherwise been. I took in each experience as I received support and love from others; these were all invaluable life lessons that contribute to my strengths as a life coach today; a career that seems custom built for me.

The next time you see change coming about and your mind defaults into fear mode, STOP. Sit yourself down and write a list of all the positive shifts that could possibly occur in your life as a result of this change. Even if it’s a small change, think about how it could have a positive impact on you? Train your mind to go toward this healthier line of thought. You will be amazed at the impact this will have on your life! We might not always invite change, but we do have the power to embrace it.
About the Author: Marla Tabaka is an active Member Coach of The Coach Connection (TCC) http://www.findyourcoach.com and has successfully coached many TCC clients to great successes. You can reach Marla by calling TCC at our toll free number of 800-887-7214 or direct at 239-415-1777