Why people Do Not Have to become so unhappy in their work.

Bill Dueease — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 05:00:00 -0400

Without knowing it or not, virtually 99% of working people use the same process to select their careers and work positions. They use the Trial & Error work selection method. Emphasis on Error.

How does the Trial & Error Work Selection Method work?

First, people look for the potential work positions that exist within their present circle of interest. They evaluate the possible choices. This gives lots of people a false sense of power, because they feel in control and superior during the evaluation. They try to guess what they might like to do and which position would be best for them.

Second, they eventually select a position to give it a try.

Third, they begin working at the new position.

Fourth, they adjust to the position as presented, they adjust to the company (if there is one) they adjust to the culture of the industry, they adjust to their boss or bosses (if they have any) they adjust to the requests of their customers, and they adjust to the written or unwritten code of expectations and conduct for the position. Because they were not clear about the position or what they wanted the position to be, they are required to adjust, and frequently adjust dramatically in many ways to conform to others.

Fifth, they eventually become bored, disillusioned, unhappy, nonproductive, or just plain upset at working in the position that evolved after they made all of the adjustments to suit others.

Sixth, they decide to change positions to seek better working conditions.

Seventh, they use the same Trial & Error work selection method to find, evaluate, and select their next work position.

Eighth, they transfer to their new work position and begin the adjustment process all over again. But this time the adjustments will probably be different in some, if not many, respects. But, once again they adjust.

Ninth, they eventually become bored, disillusioned, unhappy, nonproductive or just plain upset at working in the new position that evolved after they made all of the adjustments to suit others. They get the same feelings they had from the previous position, but notice that now the scenery, the people, the duties, and rules are all different. But they feel the same bad feelings.

Tenth, they continue on again to select their next work position using the Trial & Error method to eventually generate the same results.

Sound Familiar?

People get discouraged because they used the wrong selection process

After a while people start to feel down, confused, or insecure because they cannot seem to fit in and find the right work position for them. They look around and see others who appear to be much happier and more successful. This can be upsetting. So they feel a need to put on a show to convince themselves and others that they too enjoy what they are doing. Others around them are most likely in the same unhappy work positions, and they too are probably putting on a similar show of happiness and bliss.

Or people start blaming themselves for not finding their desirable work positions. They get down on themselves. Their confidence and self esteem decline. They loose interest in their work, and even in their lives. Their performance and energy levels decline. And the downward spiral continues until something dramatic happens. They might even resort to escape methods of dugs, alcohol, or exotic lifestyle changes.

Or they choose to find alternate solutions. They seek advice. They take tests. They take additional education classes. They try to get college degrees. All to improve their hire ability, and many times their confidence and self esteem.

Or many people just choose to stick it out with their latest position until they reach the ballyhooed paradise called retirement, thinking that the bliss of retirement will justify their suffering at work for all of their years. Then they use the same Trial & Error method to select their retirement life. What happens at retirement is another confusing story.

The US Bureau of Labor has reported that the average worker in the US will change EMPLOYERS 10.2 times during their working life. I believe this statistic confirms that a vast majority of people use and follow the Trial & Error Method in their journey to get their best work position.

Yet, there is nothing wrong with the job switchers

There is NOTHING wrong with the people who find themselves in mismatching work positions. The bare truth is these people were virtually guaranteed to become disconnected with their work positions. Why? Because they used the wrong work selection method. The Trial & Error method forces people to try, adjust, and retry so many distasteful dead end work positions.

What work selection process really works?

Is there a better work selection method? Yes there is! But it did not appear until around 1992, and only a very few people were aware of it. But today in 2008 far more people have, at least, heard of this new work selection process. The new work selection process that will virtually guarantee that people WILL discover and connect with their ideal income position, where they get to go to play every day, do what they love and love what they do, and are very well rewarded for the excellent value and results they produce, because they are very good at their new work position is called career coaching. A career coach is really a personal coach who specializes in assisting people to transition into their ideal income positions.

How does career coaching work?

Your career coach will focus completely on you to assist you to unravel the mystery within you first. Your coach will ask you coaching questions to get you to open up and reveal things you have not revealed to anyone before, including yourself. Your coach will then reflect (mirror) this new information about you back to you so you discover the inner working of what drives and limits you. You will discover for the first time the following: your passions, your self-imposed obstacles, (the things you do not what to do) your beliefs and values, (your spirituality) your talents, and your priorities. When you discover these key five core ingredients about you, you will become the worlds leading expert on you.

You and your career coach custom build your ideal income position

You and your coach will then design and custom build your ideal income position to allow you to fulfill your passions and priorities, follow your beliefs, maximize your talents and avoid as many of your self imposed obstacles as you can. After designing your ideal income position, you and your coach will go obtain your ideal income position so you are operating in it on your terms. You will no longer adjust to the position. Instead, you will adjust the conditions of the position to suit you. In other words, you and your career coach will become the architect team of discovering and designing your custom position, just like you and your architect would design your custom home. You start with the foundation and build up from there.

You will have a much easier time getting your ideal income position

Because you now KNOW exactly what your ideal income position is and what it is NOT, you will have a far easier time obtaining that position than ever before. First, you will eliminate using the Trial & Error method. (This alone vastly improves your success rate) Second, you will KNOW what you want and only focus on getting it. Third, you will be so naturally enthusiastic, so naturally talented and capable, and be so good at what you love, you will become far more desirable to potential customers or potential bosses. In essence, they will seek you, because you will make them look and feel good. The acquisition step has proven to be the easiest and quickest in this process. And when you obtain that position you will continue your self-discovery to make sure the conditions around you adjust to you, so you will not be led or forced to adjust to conditions of others.

The career coaching work selection method works!

We at TCC have assisted hundreds of people to discover themselves, design their ideal income positions, and actually obtain them on their terms. Our clients have made remarkable, prosperous, and enjoyable career transitions through career coaching.

Pick the Right Career Coach for you.

You will want to find and engage the career coach who will assist you to attain your ideal income position. Unfortunately, you will not want to hire just any career coach. You will want to be very careful and selective. There are four key conditions you will want to be met, TO SUIT YOU, before you engage your personal coach. These are universal, and are needed no matter where you find your career coach. Briefly they are:
1. You must have at least one coachable goal
2. You must be ready for coaching
3. Your career coach must really like and totally connect with your
4. Your career coach must be an experienced and capable career coach with the gift of coaching and who will only coach you.

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